Too nice for our own good

 Contributed by Dr K Chuah

Not all of our patterns have to be "bad and nasty" to be of detriment to ourselves. Often we can play out all of our culturally desirable virtues, to please others, but in this way, we can sabotage our own lives. Professor Gordon Parker, published an article with the title "Too nice for our own good" in the November 2006 issue of "Medical Observer". His leading paragraph was "why being too nice can be a marker of high risk for depression".

Often when we break down the patterns that are analysed in the work of Your Life Patterns different aspects lend themselves to being suppressed and repressed, and leave the person too timid, less authentic and then unsure as to why they feel they have to please people and not fulfil their own desires and destiny in a personally potent and authentic way Professor Parker is writing his article from a psychiatric perspective and discusses depression. "Your Life Patterns" does not claim to be a replacement for someone who is undertaking this therapy. However, those people who are struggling with being "too accommodating", "coming last in the group out of niceness" or battling with being rejected, exploited or bullied, can use Your Life Patterns to help step out of these supposedly 'desirable' patterns and into a balanced approach to life where one can be noticed for all the right reasons, and not trampled over by those who are less nice.

It is a waste of life when people "turn their anger on themselves, with suicide being an extreme expression of that response". If you are feeling life is all a little too much, or that being nice hasn't got you anywhere in life, then it might just be time to take control of your own patterns and to find out how to clear the negative aspects within you; for issues that you have previously denied, so you can step fully into the strength of your own goodness.